"The opposite of anger is not calmness. It's empathy." - Mehmet Oz
"I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it." - Maya Angelou
"We're all sensitive people." - Marvin Gaye
A client once told me about a workplace tug-of-war she was experiencing with a co-worker who was trying to undermine her job. When she realized that nobody else at work saw this person the way she did, it came as a surprise. When I asked if she found that she was able to “see right through” situations or often had a gut feeling about people that others seemed oblivious to, it was as if a light bulb went on over her head. She could think of many times where she felt she knew the truth of a situation before anyone else did. Unfortunately, she often had a difficult, and sometimes impossible, time trying to convince others of what she perceived.
If this sounds familiar - you’re not alone! Intuitive people often feel as if we have special antennas that “receive” information before anyone else. This is a wonderful gift, but it can become tricky to deal with in the workplace, both emotionally and strategically. We can feel confused or overwhelmed by the information we’re getting and not know how to cope. My most useful intuitive coping tool is empathy, and it can help you get perspective on conflicts at work.
First, get calm and centered. Take a few deep, relaxing breaths. Next, release any emotional reactions or negativity about the circumstances – imagine your worries or concerns just floating away on clouds. Then, ask your Inner Wisdom for any information that will help you get insight into the perspectives of the people involved. Try to imagine living their life, experiencing their concerns, their fears and desires. What kind of awareness can you gain just by imagining things from their viewpoint? You can even imagine them telling you about how they came to have their ways of being and acting, and why. How would those insights change your thoughts or your actions towards them?
You’d be surprised what a little empathy can do! For my client, finding empathy for her co-worker changed her view of their actions and the insights she received just imagining their life gave her more confidence when interacted at work. Give it a try and see what happens!
P.S. Here's an interesting article about how intuition can be used in the workplace.